Sometimes it is making sure that the two granola bars are supplemented with an apple and a bag of wheat thins - and a "Don't forget your snack!" as she heads off to her evening English class.
Sometimes it is staying up to watch the Miss Universe pageant with her even though it is past your way too early bedtime.
Sometimes it is cutting up a bowl of fruit to supplement the previous "snack" before you head off to bed.
It is doing these things instead of offering the hugs that you really want to supply.